Hi, I was married before, my fiance has never been married. My problem is that I retained my married name. My fiance hates it. What should I do for invitations. Should I just put our first names? We are doing the whole wedding ourselves.
You should use your legal name (the name everyone knows you by) on the invitation.
Tell your fiance that will be the last time he has to see that name. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
Maybe it depends? My legal last name is also my married name, however, I lived out of state for 12 years (married 14) and msot of the people here in my hometown still refer tome by my maiden name. So I was thinking it would be ok, to use my maiden name on my invitations?? Maybe I'm wrong. What is your situation?
There still may be people who know you by your married anme and since that is your legal name maybe you'd like to hypenate or add your former name in parentheses. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
I agree with the moderator- use your legal name and place your maiden name in paranthesis on the invite. You did not mention if you would changing your name to your new husbands or not. Perhaps you want to take his name or go back to your maiden name only or meet in the middle and use your maiden name- married name. As you may remember from your first marriage you will want to contact the proper financial and legal institutions with whatever you choose. Sarah Emond Operations Manager Equalityinmarriage.org
I agree also. You should use your legal name on the invites. I have a question about last names that deals with the children. I would like my son to have the same last name I do after I remarry. However, putting his first name with my fiance's last name give him a name he may be teased for forever. I did not change my name back to my maiden name at the time of divorce because the judge would not allow me to change my son's last name also. I am wondering if it would be okay to give him a hyphenated name using my maiden name and my fiance's last name. (Gibson-Lee) If not his name would be Dryw Lee. He is already getting a little teasing about that. I am not sure what to do.
Will the judge allow the boy's name to be changed now?
Even if it's allowed, will the boy's biological father be a concern?
I think you're right to worry about your son and the teasing. Kids can be cruel. Do a lot of thinking and talking before making such an important decision. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
My husband to be is willing to adopt my son. He has no children and knows medically it would be a large risk for me to have one. We are talking about adopting another and I don't think it would be fair that Dryw would be the only one without his last name. As far as my ex he lest me the night he brought me home from the hospital with our beautiful son. We haven't seen him in nine years. I think he would be happy to give up his rights so he doesn't have to pay child support which he doesn't often pay now. He still is adding it up. I think they would forgive that money and he would be happy with that.
last name dilema
