this is my first marriage but my fiance's second marriage. We are in our mid 40's. I have had many comments from people related to planning a wedding of any substance 'at this time of your life, at your age' etc. We are planning a church wedding and reception with approximately 60 guests but when I tell people of our plans I get this disapproving sense that people feel it is more appropriate for us 'at our age' to just go off and get married quietly. (people have actually said that!) I also have not even begun to look for a wedding dress because that as well seems to be the 'wrong' thing to be doing 'at our age'. While I don't really want a formal wedding dress with all the frills etc that I might have wanted 20 I do want something that separates it as a wedding dress as opposed to just a dress. I just read some information on the 'secondwedding.com' site but it seems to refer to situations when both are entering a second marriage. This is my first and I don't want to have to follow the etiquette of a second wedding just because it is his and we are considered 'old'. What is acceptable?
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Feb 25, 2005, 6:25 PM
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my first wedding / his second...what to wear?
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Since you are a first time bride, you get to apply all of the first time rules...at any age!
Buy a dress you feel stunning in and blow off the naysayers. have the wedding you want and you feel comfortable with. If you want all of the frills, go for it.
I think we had a woman on the forum recently that said she was in her 60's, first wedding..and she was wearing a traditional wedding gown!
By the way, gettingremarried.com is the website and it's not just for couples where both are on their second marriage. There is a lot of information you may find useful such as wording your invitations or, if he has kids, how to invlude the children, etc, etc. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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Feb 25, 2005, 6:39 PM
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Re: [manyquestions] my first/his second
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Absolutely. I couldn't agree more. Please have the wedding you want and know that you are doing the right thing.
Enjoy! Actually, enjoy it all!!! Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
my first/his second
