okay for couple married before to have a wedding in the church with 5 attendants
I have been married twice before, once at 17 and divorced at 20. The marriage was only him, I and a judge. The second time I was pregnant with my daughters at married in a judges chambers (that marriage was 10 years) Now after being single a long time I have been with my fiance for 5 years and we have decided to get married. Because I have never had a wedding, reception or celebrated it with friends and family I would like to.
Is it okay for me to have a wedding in the church with 5 attendants? I am also having a commitment ceremony with his 18 yr old son (that I have raised for the past 5 years, his mother hasn't seen him in that long) my 17 yr old son and my 12 yr old twin daughters.
I am just wondering I don't want it to be tacky.
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Dear Traciann,
Many believe that encore weddings should be down-played and subtle. But, as long as you choose attire that is appropriate for the event and age relative, you may have the formal wedding with 5 attendants. Please remember that we base the number of attendants on the formality of our event--the more formal and the more guests equal more attendants.
Hosting commitment ceremonies for adults and children is something new to me, so I cannot comment on this.
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Sorry it is a Family Medallion Ceremony... I said it wrong.
Thank you for the advice. It is pretty laid back wedding. We are marrying in the church and then doing a cocktail cruise on a yacht on the Mississippi for about 2 hours and then we will be having a reception outdoors under the large tent with a cookout type dinner; nothing formal. My issue is there are 8 kids in my family, so picking and choosing is very difficult to do without hurting peoples feelings.
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I would leave out the attendants so you don't have to choose, especially since your wedding seems so informal.
Have you seen New Beginnings Medallion for the boys and New Beginnings Necklace for the girls? Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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Thanks for the links, they are way nicer than the other ones I found on the internet.
To late on the attendants though they have been asked. I wish I would have thought it out a little better before we asked people to be in the wedding.
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You could tell them that your plans have changed and have now opted for a very informal wedding which requires no attendants. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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I agree. That is a great way to do it. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
okay for couple married before to have a wedding in the church with 5 attendants
