I am having my third marriage (his first) at city hall with about 20 friends and family attending. I am wearing a formal evening dress and he will have suit and tie. Invitation was done by word of mouth. When people were told of the wedding I also mentioned that we planned to grab dinner at a local restaurant and they were welcome to join if they wanted to. Now three days before the wedding a coworker (who is not invited) asked if I was prepared for the bill that would be coming. I asked what he meant and he said I am supposed to pay for everyones meal. This had never occurred to me because it is not a reception, I do not expect gifts, and it was a casual invite. Are we to pay for the meal for everyone?
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WEDDING ETIQUETTE EXPERT
Jan 9, 2007, 3:36 PM
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Re: [deterrian] restaurant dinner after city hall wedding
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Dear Grabbing a Meal,
If you invite guests, you are expected to pay for their meals. It is the 'you invite, you pay' rule. However, this is a close call. If you just mentioned where you are going, then you didn't invite. But, it really sounds as if you invited them.
restaurant dinner after city hall wedding
