My brother is getting married for the second time. It is the bride's first marriage. Her family is giving her two showers in her hometown. I feel awkward giving a shower in my hometown for our family since these people gifted his previous wife, and, therefore him. I would like to host a tea welcoming the new wife into the family. Do you think this would be acceptable? Should I state on the invitations not to bring gifts?
Actually families should not host showers because it is viewed as self serving. There are exceptions such as the long distance bride. Bottom line: it has to be for a very good reason. So, the tea is a much better idea. Please no not mention gifts at all in this case. Some may wish to bring them and some may not.
Now for the view of guests giving to a previous bride from a previous marriage. This is a new marriage for the both of them together--a new beginning. We shouldn't feel awkward at all. This is something to celebrate.
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