I was hoping to get some advice on a transportation issue.
My daughter is getting married in our small town about 25 minutes away from her Grandmother's home. She has chosen to get ready there because her stepfather and I are selling our home and the wedding date and the closing date are within a week of each other. Also, it is 2 minutes from where she wants to have her wedding photos taken.
Her natural father has offered to pay for a luxury car and hire driver for the wedding party. I was hoping to ride to the church with my daughter from the photo location so that I could be a part of the excitement leading up to the big moment. She says that I must go ahead of her in another car so that a) I can arrive at the church on before her, and b) she can go with him. I am not sure, but I think this is a decision she made out of a feeling of obligation (him paying for the car).
This whole mess is complicated by the fact that her step father (who had more of a hand in raising her than her own father) was not asked to participate in the ceremony. He feels like he is outside the circle, and by extension so do I.
Obviously my husband and I will be there for the photos, but what to do about the 30 minute ride back to the church? And what about her Grandmother? Should I just bite my tongue about going with her and rent a car myself to take my husband, mother and myself? I will be sad to miss out on the excitement part, but that might be something I'll have to do without in order to keep peace and make the day go smoothly. The last thing I want to do is make her feel unhappy. It is her day afterall.
Sometimes I think there is something to be said for elopement!
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WEDDING ETIQUETTE EXPERT
Feb 20, 2006, 1:26 PM
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Re: [Leslie] Who does the MOB and GMOB travel with?
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Dear MOB,
Typically 'the car' holds the bride and her attendants. Sometimes the bride and her escort will ride together, because he escorts her. But, the mothers don't usually ride with the bride. There is nothing wrong with your daughter's logic.
I don't understand about you having to rent a car unless you and your husband don't own one. But, it seems as though you would need a vehicle for this day anyway. So, either your husband would be driving or you would in any case. You couldn't use your daughter's car after the ceremony.
Who does the MOB and GMOB travel with?
