I was a history major in college and love Ancient Rome. I am trying to put together a Roman wedding but running into a number of problems.
On the positive side, I found a dress maker who is making an absolutely stunning white toga dress for me that looks amazing. She is also putting together pink togas for the bridesmaids and black and white togas for the groomsmen.
The problem I am running into is with my bridesmaids. I am having 8 friends in the wedding and they keep complaining about the theme. I have asked each of them to serve as servers during the reception and throughout the night to keep with the theme. This was primarily due to a lack of funds. I am not asking for a present but just to have them do this. My MOH has agreed to be my personal server throughout the evening and we have evening joked about having her feed me grapes and rub my feet.
The other 7 girls have complained about working at the wedding. The other issue is footwear. I decided to have them go barefoot for the wedding and reception which is common among Roman maids. They are not too keen on the idea so I offered a compromise of letting them wear nude hose.
I know I am asking a lot and I am probably a bridezilla, but this is my dream. is this reasonable? Also do you have any other ideas I could incorporate into the theme.
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Re: [clairealton] Asking bridemaids to serve at the wedding
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It is not the responsibility of your bridesmaids to perform services at the wedding reception to help you offset costs. It's difficult ebough to justify asking them to spend money purchasing a "dress" they will never wear again and wouldn't even be able to alter or sell on Ebay.
You can still have your Roman themed wedding but be kind to your bridal party and treat them as guests, not service providers. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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I completely agree.
We don't typically have that many attendants for an informal wedding and it seems that this is. So, you have problems here as well. Your attendants shouldn't be serving guests. They should be served. If you want friends to serve, they would have to be asked and wouldn't be expected to be attendants. They wouldn't be paying for their attire either, as they would be doing you a huge favor.
I sincerely hope you don't also expect them to provide the food.
If you wish to continue with the theme, it may be best to schedule this during a time guests do not expect to eat a full meal. Then you can provide a simple fare and no one needs to serve.
Asking bridemaids to serve at the wedding
