I ordered the dresses that I loved for my bridesmaids just as they were discontinued. They cost approx. $190, and I know one of my bridesmaids cannot afford it. The others feel it's unfair that I paid for half of the dress for her and not them. I disagree. This bridesmaid lived very poorly, whereas, for my other bridesmaids, that price buys a haircut or pair of jeans. BRIDE
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Firstly, it was very kind of you to offer to pay a part of your friend's dress so that she could be in your wedding. Just explain yourself to your other bridesmaids as you did here to us. If they cannot understand and sympathize with your friend's fianancial situation, sorry, but too bad.
How do these other ladies even know that you've paid for your friend anyway? In the furture, keep those details to yourself, if possible. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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I haven't told anyone at all yet, aside from my parents, since they want to keep track of everything (contracts and ect. I work two jobs and go to school full time, so that's ok). My parents are concerned that she will tell them. (I find this doubtful, most people don't brag about a lack of financial means.) I didn't intend to tell the other bridesmaids at all either, less embarassing for her that way, right? BRIDE
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OK, so you're still in good shape and you were assuming they might give you trouble?
Have a chat with your bridesmaid and let her know it's your little secret, and that you should agree to keep it between the two of you. That way, you're both comfortable that the cat won't be let out of the bag. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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My parents know, that's why they're freaking out. They feel that if it gets out that I paid for half of her dress, there might be some conflict. I don't feel that way, and I wouldn't think it would get out. Even if it did, my bridesmaids aren't shallow people. I would like to think they would understand. Bottom line with my parents is that they don't think Ishould be the one paying it, nor them. They're afraid it would seem incredibly unfair. Just a side note, this bridesmaid is also wife of a groomsman, and their son is the ring bearer. There's a lot of money coming from that family even if half of everything were paid. BRIDE
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You know in your heart what's right here; assure your parents that you know.
If they, and you, are the only people to know about this, then how would the secret get out? Surely your friend won't tell. Remind your friend to keep the secret. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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Bridesmaid Disagreement
