Bridesmaid doesn't like dress - can I change after the ceremony?
My brother is getting married at the end of August and I'm really excited to be a bridesmaid! The bride has 12 of us all wearing the same dress-- bright pink with a big bow in back and a huge pouffy skirt that falls just below the knees. I look absoultely ridiculous and feel like a giant cupcake in it. Not only is it not my style, but it adds about ten pounds to my frame. Really, it just looks silly and terrible. Since this is my first wedding ever, I really don't know much about etiquette, and could really use some help: is it horrendously inappropriate to change into my own dress (I have some truly stunning ones) after the ceremony? I can't imagine that all 12 bridesmaids will be wearing the same thing for the whole evening, and there's going to be about 500 guests at the party, many of whom I haven't seen in years since I left home and moved to California a few years a go. I just don't want to feel uncomfortable and look ridiculous the whole night... what's the right thing to do?! Help, please!!
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Re: [leezeel] Bridesmaid doesn't like dress - can I change after the ceremony?
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Dear Leezeel,
This is one of those typical bridesmaid's moments. Many times you are stuck in a dress that isn't your style and are expected to smile and suck it up. And, this is exactly what you are expected to do...the entire time. If you changed, it would be as if you are directly telling the bride that she has horrible taste--not good. So, perhaps you could wear a good body shaper under your pouffy dress. Many of them appear to shave a good 5 pounds off your body.
Bridesmaid doesn't like dress - can I change after the ceremony?
