I am a bridesmaid in a wedding and had a question regarding hair, makeup, and nails. The bride decided that she wanted all of us to have our hair done, our makeup done in the same manner, and for our nails to be done in the same manner. Because she decided she wanted all of us to be the same, she said that she would pay for it all, and that it would be our bridesmaid gift (in addition to a necklace we all must wear with our dresses at the wedding). However, we have to tip out the people doing our hair, makeup and nails. Is this an appropriate "gift" to her bridesmaids? I only ask because not all of the bridesmaids have paid for either of her showers (nor did they put in any effort in planning anything), and only paid for their dress and shoes. A couple of us have spent over $600, and this is before the bachelorette and before a wedding gift. It just doesn't seem right to thank us all in the same way, when only a couple of us really put in the time, effort, and money to give the bride the showers she wanted.
This seems to me like a very generous gift. When a gift is offered to you, it's not polite to decide if it's your choice of gift or to equate it with what you've done or spent as being a member of the bridal party. Giving a shower or bachelorette party is totally optional, and no one is obligated to pay or not. It was your choice to host and to pay for these parties. In fact, it was your choice to accept the honored position to be a member of the bridal party and all of the expenses that ultimately go along with the role.
If you're running low on funds, the bachelorette can be toned down and the wedding gift can be less expensive, as needed. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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