I only have 2 attendants for my August wedding, a MOH and one bridesmaid. I had chosen my colours, light blue and pale green, for our beach wedding and both girls agreed to it. I let the girls choose their own styles as one is very tiny and the other is a size 26. Both girls picked dresses that were very flattering to their body types and I thought we were done with them. However, my bridesmaid's mother is making a dress for her and has decided that light blue will make the woman "look even fatter than she already is" (her mother's words, not mine) and wants to add navy blue to the dress. I'm not sure about it as it would be the only dark colour. Will it work with the other pale colours?
Thank you for the help!
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Dear MrsHamper,
I'm not the color expert here, but I can chime in about the appropriateness of the mother changing your colors. You choose the colors, not her. She can suggest, but you decide. It is definitely your choice.
Maybe the navy will blend, you are happy, and there are no worries. But, you decide.
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I totally agree. You, the bride decide the colors! You went out of your way by letting your bridesmaids choose their own styles, and they have picked the dresses flattering to their body types. You can try to explain to the mother of your bridesmaid in a tactful way, that it is not the color that makes a person appear thin or big, it is the style and cut of the dress that makes all the difference. If she insists on navy blue, try to incorporate elements of that color into accessories or jewelry or maybe flowers for your bridal party, so it would blend well and your bridesmaid's dress would not look "out of place". Good luck and enjoy your wedding! Irina Feygin, IMpeccable iMage, Inc. Image and Beauty and For Princess Bride
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Thank you for your help! I really do appreciate it. I do want her to feel comfortable in her dress but we are on a pretty tight budget and our flowers and most of our decor has already been bought.
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I don't have anything to add to the great advice you already got. I just wanted to congratulate you on being such a generous bride and friend. You are caring and considerate of your bridemaids' feelings. So many aren't. So - kudos to you. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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