Some of my bridesmaids are arguing with me on the price of the dresses now, arguing with each other about bead work on the dresses-who wants it and who doesn't, arguing about shoes with me, they don't want to wear what I've chosen. I don't know how to handle a situation like this, and I fear a bridesmaid will drop out on me, and leave me with her tab on her dress. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thank you in advance!
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Re: [becomingMrs] Bridesmaids don't like the dress and shoes
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Dear BecomingMrs,
Perhaps it would be best to listen to all of their concerns and then make a final decision. Once you have chosen a dress, let them know that this is it. But, you could allow them to choose their own version of the dress you choose (color and length)--as long as this isn't a formal wedding.
The bridesmaids pay for their dresses, so you shouldn't be obligated to pay if she bows out.
Re: [becomingMrs] Bridesmaids don't like the dress and shoes
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Yes, and, since they do pay for these dresses, it's nice to consider their feelings, yet difficult to keep them reigned in. If you select one color and a few variations on one style of dress, then you can let the ladies select the style that best suits them. Remember that beading is for formal, evening events. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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My wedding is very formal and at 7pm. It's just a select few not all. The dresses are already very cheap, 155.00. I've already changed the dress for them twice. I would like them all in the same dress.
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What you deem cheap may not be the same for another. Although this is your wedding and they have agreed to be a part of it, you should still consider that the dress has to be worn by them. Before you make any further decisions, everyone should attend a meeting at the bridal shop to try on gowns and then you select the style that looks best on everyone. If you just select a dress style because you like it, and this dress doesn't look well on every body type, you won't have the result you're after. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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Yes they all tried on gowns last week. We've already been through this. It's difficult to make a decision when you have a select picky ones. I have one who is saying the 155 is to much, I have another who hates the beads, wants to wear a high heeled shoe and is willing to pay up to 600 for her dress. What I am trying to get at is, it's really only the two who are complaining. How much bending over am I suppose to do here? Especially when the majority agree?
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Re: [becomingMrs] Bridesmaids don't like the dress and shoes
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Majority rules.
Tell the one who doesnt like the beads that you're sorry she doesn't like your choice but maybe she can have the beading removed after the wedding. But, this is look you're going for...
If you can make compromised with the shoes, like finding a shoe in the same style, one with a bit of a higher heel, then do it. It's up to you how much "bending over" you are willing to do. These are your close friends and family members and only you know them well. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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Re: [becomingMrs] Bridesmaids don't like the dress and shoes
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And along with the other good advice, you might need to consider discretely helping the bridesmaid who feels the dress is too much by offsetting some of the cost. $155 is a lot of money to people who have budget concerns. If the price is truly her main issue, and she is otherwise supportive, it may be a way to smooth out most of the problem. Shayna Walker, Williamsburg Wedding Design
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