Bridesmaids will not repay bride for their dresses
My Wedding is in two weeks, back in December I offered to pay for the bridesmaid dresses because money was tight for everyone during the holidays. Everyone agreed they would pay me back in January. It is now June and I have not received any of the money. I've asked a couple times, and even offered to take payments (that was in January). But now 6 months later with 2 weeks left I need the money.
I was going to have a beauty day Friday before the wedding, have our nails and toes done and go out to a nice lunch...but now I don’t want to spend any money on them, and really dont have the money to spend on them.
Also I am now short on the wedding day beauty budget for everyones hair and make up. I want everyone to look nice but...I cant go broke.
This really puts me in an awkward situation.... Please Help!
(This post was
edited by mcturtle on Jun 3, 2008, 12:18 PM)
Weddings by Shayna
WEDDING CONSULTANT
Post #2 of 5
(1319 views)
Re: Bridesmaids will not repay bride for their dresses
[In reply to]
It's shocking that none of them have paid you - did they agree to the price of the dress in advance (I'm trying to see if there is something more to their unwillingness to pay)?
You just have to be as straightforward with them, as you have been with us. Let them know that you've extended the terms of the loan as long as you possibly can, and that you now need to be repaid as agreed. Also, definitely cancel any beauty treatments or sessions that you would otherwise have to pay for, or if they are counting on those appointments, give them 48 hours to advise if they plan to pay for them or if you should cancel them.
If the agreement was clear to begin with and everyone agreed, you can't let them walk all over you and stick you with a huge bill. Do understand that confrontation may lead to awkwardness on the wedding day, though. Be sure you're ready to deal with that before you say anything else to them at all. Shayna Walker, Williamsburg Wedding Design http://www.williamsburgweddingdesign.com
mcturtle
Post #3 of 5
(1317 views)
Re: Bridesmaids will not repay bride for their dresses
[In reply to]
Thank you for you advice! No one made any mention of the price when we were picking the dresses out.
But now they are complaining about it every time I've asked for the money. They have even gone so far as to suggest my fiancé who is financially stable pick up the bill.
I have clearly expressed my feelings to them, and even apologized for the inconvenience my wedding might have caused them…. and each of them have said that they understand my situation but cant pay me right now.
I will take your advice and ask one more time. If they do not offer to pay for it before the wedding I will have to have them pay for their own appointments.
I have about had it with each and every one of them.
Thank you again!
(This post was
edited by TWQadmin on Jun 3, 2008, 5:53 PM)
Etiquette Now
WEDDING ETIQUETTE EXPERT
Post #4 of 5
(1312 views)
Re: Bridesmaids will not repay bride for their dresses
[In reply to]
Shayna gave you some great advice and I completely agree. And, please don't feel guilty if you can't pay their way for the beauty day. At this point, that probably isn't an issue
I'm sorry this has happened. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
TWQadmin
FORUM EXPERT
/ Moderator
Post #5 of 5
(1298 views)
Re: Bridesmaids will not repay bride for their dresses
[In reply to]
Since they aren't paying, and it's not looking likely that they will, let them know (politely, of course), that unfortunately, you will not be able to pay for their day of beauty. If they decide they want to spend the money to have their hair and makeup done, great. If not, you won't be out any money you hadn't originally decided to spend. I understand when money is tight, but, try not to let this ruin relationships or your enjoyment of the wedding planning process. In a few years, the few dollars you're out will be forgotten, but, any harsh words or arguments may not be so easily left behind. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
Bridesmaids will not repay bride for their dresses
