My soon to be sister-in-law has a big tattoo on her upper back and her dress is not going to cover it. My future mother-in-law said that maybe she could wear her hair down to cover it, but I was planning for them to have their hair up (I think it looks elegant).
My fiance says that he thinks she would be offended/refuse to cover it with make up if I asked.
If she was my maid of honor I would consider asking her to wear a shawl but she's not and I don't want them all to wear a shawl.
I need help.
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expertplanner
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Apr 18, 2006, 10:38 AM
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Re: [FutureMrs.Piper] Can I ask my bridesmaid to cover her tattoo?
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This is a very touchy subject and needs to be handled delicately.
I believe I know why you want to ask her to cover it up. Most likely it is because you don't want it seen in your photos and/or videography, and also it sounds as though you are working toward creating an elegant atmosphere.
However, I can not tell you that you can or cannot ask her to cover the tatoo. That is going to have to be your decision. What I will say is that you should take care to remember that the tatoo is a part of who she is. Asking her to do this may very well offend her. Especially, if she had this tatoo at the time you asked her to be in your wedding and you were aware she had it.
Although you say you don't want them all to wear a shawl, if you want to avoid any hurt feelings, or the possibility of confrontation, then having all the bridesmaids wear shawls may be the easiest way to solve this. Your Maid of Honor could always wear a slightly different shade of the same color shawl, or style to set her apart. Rhonda Allen, Bridal Consultant New Beginnings Weddings
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Apr 18, 2006, 2:30 PM
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Great answer. I agree that that is a good and reasonable solution to this.
And, even though you want to create an elegant affair--tattos don't seem to fit in--more people don them these days. It may seem normal to a number of guests since we see so much of it.
So, that is another way of looking at it. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
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Apr 18, 2006, 2:32 PM
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If the dresses haven't been purchased yet have you considered a different style? Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
FutureMrs.Piper
Apr 19, 2006, 8:13 PM
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Yes, we have already picked and purchased the dresses. Although I knew about the tattoo I had never really thought about the fact that you would be able to see it (she is in a different state so I wasn't at the fitting). I guess we may just have to ease into the conversation when I go to see her and we have her dress altered. Thanks for all the advice.
Can I ask my bridesmaid to cover her tattoo?
