I am looking for some suggestions on how to handle this. I am getting married Memorial Day weekend. I will be having 3 bridesmaids (no MOH). Two are friends and the other is my fiance's sister. I though it would be a nice gesture to include her in the wedding party. I have been shopping for outfits with my two friends. One is 5'10 and a size 2 and the other is 5'3 and a size 6. The outfits that we have chosen are from David's Bridal's Mix and Match collection. I wanted them to wear something that compliments their body types and that could be worn again in the future. Money is tight for both girls (one just purchased a home, the other is planning her wedding). My tall friend has already ordered her outfit. My petite friend will be ordering hers in two weeks.
My fiance's sister FINALLY has some time to go shopping. My future mother-in-law is saying that we should look for dresses at Lord and Taylor (she works there part time) or Bloomingdales. She says that the quality at David's Bridal is cheap. I told her that my tall friend already placed the order for her outfit. She then suggested that if we found something nice at L&T or Bloomies, she would purchase my tall friends dress, but then she would need to give it back after the wedding. She would then give the dress to someone less fortunate in Iran (my fiance is from there). So basically, my tall friend would have bought her outfit from David's Bridal for nothing. She also suggested that my petite friend has not purchased her dress yet because she would like to look at other options.
Could you please confirm that I would have the final say in what type of outfits are worn at the wedding (bridesmaids). His family is not contributing one dime towards anything. From what my fiance tells me, they don't even ask how anything is going or even offer any help.
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Feb 2, 2006, 4:49 PM
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Re: [killerbee1970] High Society Bridesmaid
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Dear You are the Boss,
It was nice of you to include your fiance's sister, which, by the way, is a nice gesture--not an obligation. And, sweetie, you are in charge. It is your ship to sail. You are the captain and you choose the dresses.
It is considerate of you to be choosing dresses from a vendor who sells reasonably priced attire. There is nothing wrong with your decisions.
High Society Bridesmaid
I am looking for some suggestions on how to handle this. I am getting married Memorial Day weekend. I will be having 3 bridesmaids (no MOH). Two are friends and the other is my fiance's sister. I though it would be a nice gesture to include her in the wedding party. I have been shopping for outfits with my two friends. One is 5'10 and a size 2 and the other is 5'3 and a size 6. The outfits that we have chosen are from David's Bridal's Mix and Match collection. I wanted them to wear something that compliments their body types and that could be worn again in the future. Money is tight for both girls (one just purchased a home, the other is planning her wedding). My tall friend has already ordered her outfit. My petite friend will be ordering hers in two weeks. 
