I am planning to have a small wedding party with my sister as my Maid of Honor. I'd like to ask my fiance's sister to be a part of the wedding party. But I know there is absolutely NO WAY she would wear a dress and I don't think she would wear any sort of a pantsuit that would match my Maid of Honor. She is a lesbian and typically dresses and wears her hair to look like she's male. I don;t have an issue with her sexuality, or her ,look, I'm just not sure what she would wear as a member of my bridal party. I even thought that if she'd be more comfortable in a tux, she could wear that, but, I don't even know that she'd wear a tux. I wouldn't be opposed to her standing on my fiance's side if she preferred.
I'm thinking the best thing to do right now is to come right out and ask her if she'd like to be in the wedding party and what role she'd want. I figure if she does want to be a part of it and decides she'd be more comfortable in a tux standing on the groom's side, we just avoid the terms "bridesmaids" and "groomsmen".
Is it ignorant to ask this? I sort of feel it would be better to ask what role and attire she'd prefer.
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edited by TWQadmin on Jan 1, 2008, 11:39 AM)
Dancing around the issue would be worse than not discussing it, after all, she and you are comfortable with who she is. So, your idea for offering her a part wearing the clothing she feels comfortable wearing is best.
Lesbian bridesmaid won't wear a dress
