MOH & BM are to wear pants/blouse while Men are wearing tux
As my sign on name states this is my first time being a matron of honor in a wedding. Although I've been asked to be a matron of honor I hardly know the bride, my husband use to be good friends with the groom a few years ago but has since barely spoken to him. I've only spoken with the bride...maybe a total of 10 times in the past 2 yrs, so I don’t really feel right being in the wedding to begin with but they insist they want me in it. But she doesn’t want my help with anything…when we talk it is very awkward because we don’t have anything in common.
The wedding is Oct 1st and bride hasn't chosen outfits for the bridesmaid or myself. She stated that she is just going to go to the mall and pick up some pants and blouses for us to wear because the bridesmaid doesn’t like to wear dresses. My husband is going to be the best man and the groom is planning on renting a tux for the men in the wedding party. I don't think we are going to look right. How do you tell the bride that it's going to look awful? The bride and groom are paying for everything…we asked to pay for our own but again they insist they handle it all.
Any help would be greatly appreciated.
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Dear MOH, Perhaps the best way would be to gather the bridesmaids and have a discussion. It appears to me like the bride is trying to accommodate the bridesmaids distaste for dresses. If you all kindly talk to her about the entire bridal party wearing the same degree of formality, it may help. Best wishes, Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
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Just wanted to update you on what we are wearing. I finally got the bride to realize that what she wanted us to wear would not look right with the guys wearing a tux.
We have purchased deep red formal gowns. They were not easy to find since it was last minute and the bridesmaid and myself don't have a figure "of a model." We were very fortunate to find dresses in our sizes and the color's matching so closely. They are different styles but since I'm the Matron of Honor, and we only have 1 bridesmaid, I'm hoping it is ok.
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Wonderful. I'm so glad that this is working out so well.
As long as the reds do not clash, you are fine. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
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Just an update: The wedding is over and everything turned out wonderfully. The bride and groom didn't go away on a honeymoon but plan to do that for their 1-year anniversary. I'm so glad it is finally over - the 2 weeks prior to the wedding is like a big blur cause she waiting until then to finally allow me to help her with the reception and decorations. With the both of us working full time jobs with different schedules & having to take care of my family of 5 and her was a lot to do.
My advise for any brides out there that think they can do it all and don't want to ask for any help is.....ask for help cause it is to stressful on you to try and do it all...your matron/maid of honor and bridesmaids are your friends and want to help you have a beautiful wedding day.
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You are a very thoughtful and helpful friend. Thank you for sharing your experience and wisdom with us.
I'm so glad that it went well. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
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