I am the maid of honor for a very close friend who is having a full formal, although technically last minute, wedding.
I have been a bridesmaid several times but never an MOH. I've done some research and technically, I am doing all the MOH tasks already and properly.
But I am in doubt now since my mother told me that the MOH dress should be different in some way. I've spent about two hours looking online and can't find a definitive answer.
The wedding is in two months, so we have to order the dresses in the next couple days without question. The style the bride wanted originally has now changed since one of the bridesmaids refused to wear it (a rather revealing dress even though it is ankle length). I went with the bride again today and tried on several more styles that are less revealing.
My own personal issue is that the color is BRIGHT clover, and I will NEVER EVER wear it again and frankly, without other bridesmaids around me - I would feel rather odd.
She knows my view of the color but I understand her wishes and simply told her that it is her wedding.
But now I am confused as to should I be wearing the same dress or a different color? At this point, I just want them all ordered. But if I can wear something other than that GREEN, I would love it.
I admit I was brought up English and am a stickler for manners. (I've read Emily Post several times on my own volition). But for this... I do not know what is correct. I cannot ask the bride to put me in a different colour unless I know it is proper. The dresses MUST be ordered in the next two days!!
What on earth should I do? Ask for another colour? Or just flowers? I'd LOVE not to wear that grass, clover, celery stick, lizard green (yeah... I'm the girl from 27 dresses - except this is my seventh... I think, er maybe more). But it's her wedding... But should I or should I not be different from the other Bridesmaids?
AND! I have to add... the first colour I tried on was Champagne (in the selected dress). It looked WONDERFUL...BRILLIANT!!! But she doesn't want it because it looks like a "wedding dress". She is also worried out about being out shone. (I understand her but also disagree since I know she is too hard on herself by far!!!). Of course the sales lady chimed in that it would wash out a blonde. BAH! Sigh... black? Wine?
In most wedding that I was helping the brides with over the years, the Maid Of Honor was dressed the same way as the bridesmaids. In some instances, I have seen different jewelry set on a MOH; sometimes it would be the same color dress but entirely different cut from the other bridesmaids' dresses, that makes the MOH stand out. So far, I have not encountered a MOH wearing totally different color. Look at the photo of Grace Kelly's wedding to the Prince Rainier of Monaco: all her bridesmaids, including MOH, were wearing the same dresses and hats. HOWEVER: I can see that you absolutely hate the color of the dress. Why don't you talk to the bride quietly and ask her if she is planning to define your outfit as one of the Maid Of Honor in any way, or if she wants you to look as all the other BM's. Let's see what she says. If she wants to define your outfit to signify your role in the bridal party as MOH, then you can cautiously suggest that maybe you would want to wear a different shade of green to stand out a bit more. Let's see how she reacts to that. Good luck to you and enjoy the wedding! Irina Feygin - IMpeccable iMage, inc. http://www.image-and-beauty.com and For Princess Bride.com http://www.forprincessbride.com
Sorry. The ladies usually dress in the same dress. There was a very short trend of all of the bridesmaids in different dresses, but it didn't seem to stick. This is only something that would have been acceptable for an informal wedding anyway.
It would have been great to talk her into black dresses for her maids. That color usually looks good on everyone and you would probably be able to wear it again. If not...green is a happy color
MOH dresses differently?
The ladies usually dress in the same dress. There was a very short trend of all of the bridesmaids in different dresses, but it didn't seem to stick. This is only something that would have been acceptable for an informal wedding anyway. 
