I am the MOH in my friend's wedding and just found out this weekend that she ordered and paid for all of the bridesmaids dresses. I now owe her money for the dress. I realize that it is my responsibility to pay for my own attire, but I am a bit ticked off that she didn't tell me what she was ordering, and how much it cost before she went ahead and purchased the dress. I would have much preferred to pay the store myself (they have a 12 month payment plan) as opposed to owing the bride money. I have no idea what her expectation is for when she wants or needs to be paid back, and although I have enough for a deposit and regular payments to the store, I do not have cash on hand to reimburse the bride. I should mention that the other bridesmaids were with her at the store (I live in another city) when the dresses were being ordered, so I assume that she had a discussion with them about paying her back. Is this typical? Should I say something to her?
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Jan 21, 2008, 2:08 PM
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You will definitely need to have a chat. Explain to the bride, just as you have explained here, how you can afford to pay. I wouldn't get into it with her over the dress selection. This happens sometimes when a bridesmaid is not available to be present for the selection. Just explain that, from now on, you'd like to be kept in the loop due to financial concerns. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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Jan 21, 2008, 4:31 PM
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It wasn't the most considerate way of going about it, but she probably thought she was helping. I agree. Do ask to be kept in the loop, and tell her that you'll need to make payments. I'd leave it at that and expect things to go more smoothly in the future. She probably doesn't even realize she did something offensive, and you can give her a huge (and selfless) gift by letting her off the hook this once. Shayna Walker, Williamsburg Wedding Design http://www.williamsburgweddingdesign.com
Paying for Bridesmaid Dress
