Pregnant bridesmaid wants to wear a different bridesmaid dress
MOG and sister of the groom inserted themselves in the bridal party. I have not met them and they are now complaining about bridesmaid dresses choosen by MOB and brides sister. Sister of the groom "hopes" to be pregnant at wedding time, 6 mos away, and says dress is too short. It is just above the knee. Have offered to let her wear a longer dress but just feel this is going to throw the wedding pictures off as she is not the MOH and all the other dresses are the same.
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Re: Pregnant bridesmaid wants to wear a different bridesmaid dress
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Dear Tinafi,
Unfortunately it appears that you lost the opportunity for your fiance have the "talk" with his family about you choosing your own attendants. This is very unfortunate because they really shouldn't have any say in who you choose. Although it is nice when the sister of the groom can be included, it isn't obligatory or pleasant when you don't know her and she is demanding.
At this point, it may be best to put your foot down delicately through your MOH. She can be your buffer. Ask her to inform the lady that this is the dress you have chosen and that the longer one just won't work. So, if she feels uncomfortable with with wearing the dress, it is her choice to step down. Of course this is extreme and should be stated very politely--very politely and privately. If all fails, it is your fiance's duty to speak to his family and make sure they understand that you and he are planning the wedding and not his mother and sister.
Pregnant bridesmaid wants to wear a different bridesmaid dress
