I have picked out a dress that I absolutely love and compliments my wedding dress perfectly. I e-mailed it to my Maid of Honor and just by the picture she says that it will not flatter her body (she's teeny, by the way). My sisters (the other bridesmaids) love it. My Maid of Honor is telling me that it is customary for the Bridesmaids to pick and all decide on a dress. SINCE WHEN?? Any wedding I've been in, the bride chooses the dress and everyone deals with it. She thinks I'm being rude to her by not letting her pick the dress. I don't know how to respond to this. It was one of those things where I looked at the dress and was like "This is it!!" How often does that happen. Not all dresses are going to be flattering on everyone and she hasn't even tried it on yet. Please help me so I know how I can respond to her.
Thanks much!
Nancy Tucker
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Feb 21, 2006, 5:26 PM
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Dear Genapassmore,
Your MOH is not correct. The bride has the choice in the dresses. If she is too adamant about this, to salvage your relationship, can she find one in the same color and a style more befitting her petite stature. Nancy Tucker President of Weddings Beautiful US http://www.weddingsbeautiful.com
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Right, typically the bride will select the dresses for her bridesmaids but a caring bride will always consider her bridal party's figures when making the choice. Remember that they have to buy AND wear these dresses so it's nice to try to select something that will flatter most figures.
Why don't you tell her how much you love the dress and ask her to humor you by at least trying it on. She may be pleasantly surprised. Many young ladies I know have a very skewed idea of what looks well on them. Set up a date for all of you to go for a try on session and, if the dress really looks awful on her perhaps the salon owner can make suggestions for an alternative or even suggest alterations to make the dress suit her. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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Feb 22, 2006, 11:43 AM
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I completely agree. A mirror can do more than a picture. Plus, you can spend some time with her. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
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Feb 22, 2006, 2:29 PM
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I guess I didn't mention this part, but we are all in separate cities, which makes it that much harder!
I did e-mail her and asked her to please just try it on before she says no for sure and also offered to cover some of the cost in case that was part of the issue.
I'll let you all know how it turns out.
Thanks for the help.
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Feb 22, 2006, 2:36 PM
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It sounds like you have it all covered and are being very considerate of her. Good luck! Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
I have selected, what I felt to be, the perfect bridesmaid's dress for my bridal party. Since I love this dress so much I'd really appreciate it of you could visit the salon with an open mind to try the dress on and if you really hate it then we can discuss alterations or an alternate style selection.
...or something to that effect. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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