As i should, i chose my sister to be my MOH. When I told her that the dresses I picked were $199..she hung up on me, called my mom and is claiming i'm being unreasonable and she just can't afford it. I picked that dress to begin with to try to cater to her style and go in between what she wanted to spend and what I actually wanted...she told me she only wants to spend 150 w/alterations. I've been to about 10 shops and haven't found anything in that price range i like. She also said that other duties were going to cost her so much that she can't spend a lot on a dress. I guess i just don't think i picked an unreasonably priced dress. Am I wrong to feel like she should just tell me she can't do it? her complaints all ready make me feel like she feels burdened rather than excited. I spent a ton of money on her wedding becuase that's what she wanted...I don't know how to compromise any more at this point without compromising what i want. How do I address this?
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Jan 4, 2007, 1:46 PM
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There is no rule that says you have to ask your sister to be a part of the bridal party. Tell her if she feels burdened by the cost (all bridesmaids who accept an invitation to be a part of the bridal party please get this...) she could decline and just attend as a guest. Let her decide.
Personally, I think your dress is priced reasonably but, that's my opinion.
You might want to try the following for savings on bridesmaid's dresses:
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Jan 4, 2007, 3:15 PM
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I couldn't agree more. This way you are giving her a way out and everyone can save face. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
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Jan 4, 2007, 4:08 PM
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Do you have any suggestions on how i might approach that subject? Right now she will not speak to me. I know the sooner the better...should I send an email? What should I say that is proper?
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Jan 4, 2007, 4:59 PM
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It is better to say this instead of write it. You could call her or visit her even if she isn't speaking to her. Repeating her complaints and mentioning that you don't want her to feel burdened by all of this may help. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
Very upset MOH about price of dress
