I need help! My twin sister gave her bridesmaids (me - matron of honor, and one other bridesmaid, "Cindy") the option to pick their own dresses. Problem is, Cindy and I CANNOT agree on a dress style! My sister LOVES the dresses I have picked out, but hasn't seen any of Cindy's styles. It's a June 25th, 2006 wedding in Central NJ (HOT!!!!) and I had suggested getting Alfred Angelo separates (so I can have my style and Cindy could have hers). Or if we're wearing the same dress, make it sleveless and wear a wrap. We're both self conscious about our upper arms (I'm a size 16 and she's a size 18-20) and we're certainly not sticks. Anyway, Cindy wants a dress with sleeves, and I would much prefer one without sleeves and wear a wrap to cover my arms during the ceremony/pictures. My question is this... what should my sister (the BRIDE) be doing/should have done to deal with the bridesmaid dress issue?
If we never agree on a style, wouldn't separates be the way to go? Should the bride put her foot down and make a choice? If the bridesmaid won't go with the bride's selection, what should the bride do?
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Re: [jpeal] bridesmaids can pick the dresses
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Dear Sis,
This is usually the problem when the bride is being kind enough to allow the bridesmaids to choose. It seems as if no two people have the same taste :)
So, at this point, since you have looked and cannot agree, your sister should probably step in and decide for you two. She is the one who traditionally chooses anyway. If there is a disagreement after her choice, well... she is the boss. She should have the last say.
bridesmaids can pick the dresses
