i have finally gotten my dress it is in a color that complements the bridesmaids but a totally different style. now i need to pick a hairstyle that will go with the dress. the bride and i have gone round and round about my dress because i refused to wear a dress that made me look like a linebacker on a football team. now she is saying that i can't change my mind about my hair style. my dress is deep v cut in front and back made like a roman or greecen style dress. it is plain with no sparkles or stones.is it so wrong if i want to wear my hair up with a sparkly head band or barrets to give my dress a little flair not that it isn't beautiful.could someone give me an idea of a style for my hair and some advice on how to handle this bridezilla who is working my last nerve.
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Excuse me but isn't this about the bride and not about you? Yes you should adhere to her wishes as to how you will wear your hair. You have already denied her the right to have your dress match the other bridesmaids. It's about the BRIDE. Nancy Tucker President of Weddings Beautiful US http://www.weddingsbeautiful.com
I don't feel that I am being unreasonable because the dress that she picked out was too small for me to begin with, even with the weight that I have lost. Yes the day is about her but if you want people to be with you on your special day the least you could do is be nice.She has already put me out of the wedding once because she asked for my advice I gave it and she didn't like what I had to say. Advice is advice whether you like it or not. If you don't like it don't ask for it is my way of thinking.And when the wedding coordinator asked me a question about the wedding and I told her that I wasn't in it the bride said that it was my fault.All I did was give her the advice she asked for. The only reason that I have not just walked out completely is because she is my sister.Getting married and the day being about you is no reason to be rude and hateful.
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I'm sorry, Denise, but it sounds as if you have confused your sister's wedding with an event in which is focused on you. The bride chooses the dresses. She also has the right to ask her attendants to wear their hair similarly. She is the focus and is the boss here. It shouldn't be a power struggle between sisters.
It would be polite to wear the dress she chose for you and to wear your hair as she requested. If you choose not to, then you are the one who is not behaving in a polite manner. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
I do agree with everyone in this particular situation however, brides should also consider the comfort and body types of their bridesmaids. There's no reason for anyone to be treated poorly, unless they are acting poorly. Sounds like the two of you should have a discussion. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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Well put and good insight. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
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