My neice, Helen (6) and insists she will NOT wear a dress -even for my wedding. Her sister, Audrey (4) is also going to be a flower girl and is so excited about wearing a pretty dress. I've convinced Helen to participate but she has to wear pants. Question- is this ok? If so, where do I find pants for a girl for a wedding?
It's a tough and a highly unusual situation. Chances are, you wont' find a pant suit suitable for a flower girl: simply put, they are not being made. However, you can try and rent for her a white ring bearer's tuxedo at a men's store. That will be very unusual, but it's a pant suit, which meets her requirements. However, I would try to persuade the little girl - show her some bridal magazines, show her how it's done, and tell her if she wants to be in your bridal party, she has to wear dress which is a "required uniform" for a flower girl - just like it's shown in magazines. If she makes a conscious decision NOT to be in your bridal party, maybe you better not force her - you don't know what other surprises can await for you the day of your wedding. Good luck, and enjoy your wedding! Irina Feygin, IMpeccable iMage, Inc. Image and Beauty and For Princess Bride
I was also going to suggest that this little girl not be included. Have her mother explain the situation and then allow her to make her choice. 6 year olds can be unpredictable, but not too young to make a decision and live by it. Perhaps if she sees her sister in the dress she will change her mind.
If she decides she will wear the dress be sure to include her in the choice of style. Pre-select three of 4 approved styles and allow her to choose from those few styles. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
You have been helpful... what about this. My nephew (her brother) is the ringbearer. He is 3. What if she is the "Ringbearer Escort". We can make her pants out of the same fabric as my bridesmaids. My other neice will be the star flowergirl. What about that?
All of these suggestions would probably appear odd to your guests and may embarrass this child. I'd stick with the traditional. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
I totally agree with the Moderator. You don't want your guests to be shocked. Try to talk reason to the girl. If she doesn't want to be included in the wedding, don't force her! Good luck! Irina Feygin, IMpeccable iMage, Inc. Image and Beauty and For Princess Bride
Flower Girl won't wear a dress
