Stepmom's Mom Making flower girl dress, but not doing what I asked for
I had talked to my stepmom about helping find a dress for the flower girl, my niece. Then I found online one that I really loved and showed it to her. She said that her mother (who is very sweet, but whom I don't know too well) could make it. I thought that would be great!
But now that the process is started, they sent me a pattern saying "here's what we chose" and it is pretty different from what I originally wanted. I understand it's not necessarily possible to find a pattern that would be exactly like the one I found, but this is very different. They did not ask me about it before hand or say, here's what we found what do you think of this?
I am frustrated. I know that in the long run, it does not matter what the flower girl wears and that she will look adorable in anything. At the same time I am frustrated that they volunteered to make something specific and now are changing the dress without even asking me. I feel like they will be offended or I am being ungrateful if I speak up and ask for something different. And I know it would cause a big problem if I decided to buy the dress myself. So for now I'm just letting them go ahead. But what is the proper response? Am I just being too picky? Is it reasonable to expect that they'd at least consult me before deciding to do something different? Is there a nice way to try to get the idea back closer to what I originally wanted?
Thanks so much for any help.
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Apr 24, 2007, 5:20 PM
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Re: [BinAustin] Stepmom's Mom Making flower girl dress, but not doing what I asked for
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If she hasn't begun sewing yet you could gently let her know that you were thinking about something much different. Bring along the photo of the dress and perhaps even get the pattern yourself.
Let her know how grateful you are that she's offering to make the dress and that you appreciate her. Be sure to offer to pay for the materials and send a thank you note anf gift when all is said and done. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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Apr 24, 2007, 6:49 PM
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Re: [BinAustin] Stepmom's Mom Making flower girl dress, but not doing what I asked for
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I agree. I would think that they want to do something special and make you happy. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
Stepmom's Mom Making flower girl dress, but not doing what I asked for
