My fiancé’s son is having a formal 6 PM wedding in a castle. I have been engaged and lived with the FOG for 6 years and we do all the family things, celebrate all the family holidays, etc. Prior to purchasing my dress, I discussed with the bride and received approval for a long formal evening gown. At the time, that was the plan for the MOB and MOG. After I purchased my gown I found out the MOG purchased a short dress and the MOB purchased a long gown. The MOB cut her dress to tea length to try and coordinate better with the MOG. I told the bride I would take my gown back and look for a tea length, but it was not made to be tea length and I did not feel right wearing a short dress to a formal wedding. The bride liked my dress and told me to keep it. Both my gown and the MOB gown have jackets, so there is some similarity. I am still stressing over this whole thing. My fiancé ordered a tux to match my gown. Both the FOB and FOG will have a tux. The bridal party will have long gowns. Should I just keep what I have or take it back? Thanks for your advice!
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Re: Formal Evening Gown for Fiancé of FOG
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Dear Confused,
This is difficult as you wouldn't want to dress more formally than either mother. But, formality is based on more than just length. Hopefully the MOG's dress is in the same formality as your dress.
The bottom line, though, is that the choice of dresses was decided before you purchased your dress. So, you and the MOB chose according to the plan. We can't always accommodate someone who veers from the plan.
It is refreshing to hear of a couple treating the future "step" as one of the mothers. I believe that it makes for a stronger family unit.
Formal Evening Gown for Fiancé of FOG
