Please help!! The MOB tends to do everything at the last minute. For example, my son and his fiance were late for our Christmas dinner as they had to go to her house first and she didn't have her presents wrapped. My son and his fiance have been engaged for over a year and she still doesn't have a guest list made out. The wedding is on September 3rd. She hasn't bought a dress yet but did tell me she plans on wearing a long seafoam green dress. My time is limited and I want to order a dress as soon as possible. I went shopping today and was told that if I order now it will be in in June or July. I found a dress and was then informed by my son that I had to wait until the MOB bought hers. I am afraid that by the time she does it will be too late for me to order one. I work fulltime (she doesn't work) and am very busy in the summer with social activities and would therefore like to order a dress as soon as possible. Also, she tends to dress a bit frumpy, I consider myself a "young" mother and can't imagine wearing something frumpy. The dress I found is elegant and classy. Do you think it would be okay if I waited a couple more weeks and then ordered mine (so I would have it by August) if she hasn't gotten one yet?
As for color... The bridesmaids are periwinkle. My daughter is in the wedding. As the MOB is planning on wearing seafoam green, do you think eggplant would be appropriate? I'm blond and it's very becoming on me.
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edited by jalutz on Apr 2, 2005, 8:12 PM)
So that I can better address your situation, is there a compelling reason that requires you to wait for the Mother of the Bride to order her dress before you can order your own? Rhonda Allen, Bridal Consultant New Beginnings Weddings
In the most traditional wedding circles, the MOB sets the maternal fashion. This is done through her selection of style, length and color. The MOB's selection is supposed to subtly dictate what the MOG wears (the MOG's selection should compliment the MOB but the dresses should never match.) Unfortunately, this tradition can be just a tad bit unrealistic given both the MOB's and MOG's schedules.
In general, both of you should start shopping as soon as possible. What is great about your situation is that you already know what you want, as well as what the MOB is planning on wearing. Nonetheless, in trying to keep with what the Bride has asked, give it about one more month. If nothing has happened and it is four months before the wedding, ask the Bride if there is anything going on.
If at this point you find that the MOB still doesn't seem to be moving forward with purchasing her own dress, then you may have to consider telling the Bride that you want to go ahead with your dress order to make sure you have something for the wedding. Let her know you tried to work within the etiquette confines but time is running short.
I hope this helps. Rhonda Allen, Bridal Consultant New Beginnings Weddings
Agreed on the etiquette front. And, it would be wonderful if you can get the MOB to think about this dress issue soon. I'm not sure about sea foam. The colors of your dresses should really coordiate with the bridesmaid's dresses. You may not be able to do anything about the MOB's color choice. But hopefully you can choose a dress that will blend with the bridesmaid's dresses.
Many bridal shops have great ideas about the colors that will go with periwinkle. Blending is good.
MOB always late
