I am having a 5:00pm wedding and my mother is wearing a full length dress along with the mother of the groom and grandparents. My mother is questioning whether or not my step mother should wear a long dress as well. I am close to both of them and both are helping pay for the wedding. I feel like my step mom should be able to wear a long dress because everyone else will be and she is just as important. What are the rules?
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expertplanner
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Re: [erinw] MOB and Step-MOB dresses
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Dear Erin:
The etiquette is that the MOB usually sets the wedding dress to be worn in style, length and color. If MOB is wearing a full length dress, then the MOG does follow her lead. However, unless I'm mistaken your step mom doesn't have a role in the wedding like the MOB/MOG and therefore isn't subject to the same rules. But it sounds like you care about her feelings so talk with your mother about it.
Let her know your step mother isn't going to upstage her in anyway. Explain that your desire to have her dress similar to the other women in length only is because you don't want to hurt her feelings and this is very important to you. Hopefully, your mother will understand.
Best wishes,
Best wishes,
Etiquette Now
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Re: [erinw] MOB and Step-MOB dresses
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Yes, this is true. Step mothers typically are in the 'back ground'. However, if she is contributing and you are close to her, she could be viewed as 'one of the mothers'.
I completely agree with Expertplanner that your mother's feelings need to be soothed and that she knows that she won't be over shadowed.
It's wonderful that you are so close to both of your mothers. This is very special.
MOB and Step-MOB dresses
