Hmmmmmmmm.. I seem to be in a pinch. I am having a fairly small and informal wedding, outside, in August. My dress is slim fitting (mermaid style) - bridesmaids are wearing royal purple. The MOG has purchased her dress (peach - long skirt with jacket type top). MOB cannot decide what to wear. She wanted to wear a baby blue short skirt and jacket, and I winced and said no. Now I have her possibly wearing a cream and pink satin dress (she is low on money so she is trying to wear something nice that she already has - which is fine by me). I don't really care about tradition or etiquette because I would rather everyone be comfortable in a dress they want, as long as the colors all blend; sticking with the pinks, purples, creams. I find this all okay, however, MOG doesn't like her dress, but already had it altered. I told her it's perfect, she thinks she should be wearing another color, style or something else. I don't know what to tell her. She is stuck on tradition. I told her now-a-days it's not so strict. Any advice? (Now she wants to change the flower that she has to be distinct from the MOB. I changed it and she is still unsure of what to do.)
Stressed Bride!
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I'm not sure what your question is. Can you clarify? Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
I guess I'm asking if the peach colored dress is going to be ok for the MOG. She is so so so worried that people will "talk" at the wedding because she is afraid that peach isn't a MOG color to wear. She thinks that peach is ONLY for the MOB. I told her it doesn't matter, but I can't convince her. Is it ok for her to wear this color? Are there any colors that are not ok for the MOG to wear? Sorry about the confusion...i am feeling so confused myself.
There are a few etiquette rules that shouldn't be broken and are in affect to protect people's feelings and their reputation.
The MOG should wait for the MOB to choose her dress. The MOB shines on her daughter's wedding day, but not too shiny. Neither mother dresses in red or any other color that is too bright, and the dress should be conservative--not strapless. The MOG's dress should never be more formal than the MOB's dress and should blend in color and formality, which often includes length. They don't normally wear the same exact color except when the bride wishes it. This is typically when the bride wants all of the ladies in the bridal party to wear black.
Peach would be fine as long as it blends with your mother's dress. But, it is long and may be more formal than your mother's dress. This could make her appear as if she is your mother.
The only saving grace in this is that your mother hasn't chosen her dress yet and your wedding is coming up very soon. In these cases, it really isn't fair to ask the MOG to wait to choose her dress. We can just hope that your mother can find a dress that is in the same formality as the MOG in her closet.
MOB dress - traditional or not?
Neither mother dresses in red or any other color that is too bright, and the dress should be conservative--not strapless. The MOG's dress should never be more formal than the MOB's dress and should blend in color and formality, which often includes length. They don't normally wear the same exact color except when the bride wishes it. This is typically when the bride wants all of the ladies in the bridal party to wear black. 