The bridesmaids colors and fushia and teal. The groomsmen are wearing black and silver.
The MOG has a b/f that is a groomsman and said she wants to wear black to match up with his tux, even though both the bride and groom are very traditional and feel like it sends a message that she is not happy about the wedding.
She had previously mentioned she would be wearing burgundy and has just switched over to wanting a black dress. They have asked her to choose another color dress and she has said she likes the black one and is wearing it no matter what anyone thinks.
Ironically without knowing this situation, when they went to meet with the minister about the ceremony he metioned that he takes out the part that says, "if anyone has just cause why these two should not be married....speak now or forever hold your peace" because he feels that the wedding should be flowing and if someone decides to speak up it ruins the ceremony. He said the only thing worse than someone trying to protest at this late phase of the game is one of the moms showing up in black! He said he views this as disrespectful to the bride.
One of the grandmas also chose a black dress but after she heard the minister and the bride and grooms take on it she returned it for another color. Now if the mog wears a black one there will be even more hard feelings from grandma!
What to do?
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Sep 22, 2007, 3:25 PM
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Re: [MOTBRIDE] MOG insists on wearing black
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Dear MOTBRIDE,
Honestly, that is 'old thinking'. Many mothers wear black now and it has no negative connotation. It is a very flattering color and would blend with the other colors.
The biggest problem her is that she is to wait for you to choose your dress, as she is to coordinate with you and not dress more formally than you.
Both you and her can wear black. This is really the only time mothers may wear the same color, but not the same dress--it appears as if it is part of the theme.
Black is fine, but your daughter has the last say and everyone should listen. Weddings are not orchestrated by parents these days. The couple makes all of the decisions.
MOG insists on wearing black
