I am wearing a white dress and my fiance will be in charcoal grey suit with icy silver (almost white) waistcoat and tie. The rest of the men will be in same waistcoat with claret ties. The bridesmaid is in claret. The other colours for flowers, etc, are "fire" or autumnal colours of yellows, reds and oranges. The MOG has been insistent from early on that she should match her son. I feel like he should match me and she should blend with the rest of the party. Now she has picked (but not yet bought) an icy silver (almost white) outfit so she will match him. She is waiting for my mom to choose hers before proceeding. I've asked my mom to wait a couple of days until I can figure out what to do.
Should I just relax and not be bothered by what she wears? Can I tactfully explain to her than it is almost white and therefore not acceptable? I feel like she is trying to compete with or upstage me and not sure how to handle it.
Congratulations on your upcoming wedding! Yes, try to relax and not be bothered by MOG's selection of dress. You can cautiously suggest a bit darker shade of silver blue, which would be more appropriate, but try not hurt her feelings before the wedding. The best thing would be if her accessories-shoes, purse, maybe shawl- would match her son's colors, while the dress itself would be a bit darker. Try to convince her it will be more elegant this way. However, if she insists on her initial decision - just relax and enjoy the wedding! Irina Feygin, IMpeccable iMage, Inc. Image and Beauty and For Princess Bride
Great advice! It really isn't a problem if she wears something in the white family as long as it doesn't appear to be a wedding outfit--not that it is the best though and not something I would advise. But, your relationship with her is most important. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
MOG wants to match groom
