My wedding is coming up in a few weeks and I am concerned about the MOG dress choice. The MOG is considering wearing an off white dress to our wedding. She has a few dresses that she is trying to choose between (with a black and a white dress being her favorites) and she asked what I thought about the dresses. I told her that from what I understand you are not supposed to wear black (bad luck) or white (bride's color) to weddings. She is very much the matriarch of her family and she is very stubborn and pushy. She replied that the dress is not white, it is ivory.
I really do not feel that it is appropriate to wear white OR ivory to our wedding and I will feel offended if she does. Especially after I politely told her what I had heard about wearing black/white to weddings. I understand that her ivory dress would not be as white as my dress but I look forward to being the only person in white. I can only imagine how weird it will be in the family portraits to have the color of the MOG dress competing with the color of the bride's dress.
Am I wrong to feel this way? Should I just let it go or say something to her? Part of me feels that she is purposefully competing with me, she can be very competitive.
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Your feelings are just, but, what have you to gain by confronting this woman? I'd say it's a good bet that her dress is not going to look anything like a wedding gown, but, if it does and she looks like she's competing with you it will be her problem since she'll end up embarrassing herself. If your fiance wants to have a talk with her saying that he has a problem with the dress that could be okay, depending on their relationship.
If it were me I'd consider that I said my peace and would leave he to make her own fashion mistakes. It can be a long life if you and your husband's mom don't get along. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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Just as a note, off-white was the traditional color for the mother-of-the-groom until it became such a popular wedding dress color. There is nothing wrong with her wearing off-white to your wedding, except that you don't like the idea. It's early in your relationship to burn bridges. Perhaps you should demonstrate your maturity and let her wear whatever is most flattering to her body type. Shayna Walker, Williamsburg Wedding Design http://www.williamsburgweddingdesign.com
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I agree. Mothers not wearing white or black to a wedding is old and tired. Today, many brides request both mothers wear black so there is a cohesive appearance, which is the only time mothers dress in the same color. And, as long as the dress doesn't appear to be a wedding dress, it is perfectly fine. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
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