I need advice. The MoG is not cooperating at all. She is doing whatever she wants and is not listening to me or my fiance. My fiance and I agree on all of our decisions and when we tell her that we do not agree with her she goes behind our back and does whatever she wants anyway. For example, my bridesmaid dresses are eggplant in color. The groomsmen are wearing black tuxes with liliac coloured vests; the groom is wearing a black tux with a platinum vest, the FoB is wearing a black tux with a cream vest. There is no father of the groom. The maid of honor (my mother) is wearing cream. When we discussed colors it was decided that both mothers would wear cream; both mothers agreed. Recently, the MoG went out and bought a light grey dress. She did not discuss it with me or my fiance. When we told her we were not happy she told us that she did not like cream and bought the dress she liked. She does not listen. She is not respecting our decisons. What do we do? Do we tell her to buy a cream dress or do we let it go? My worry is that she will not compliment the rest of the bridal party. HELP!
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Re: [draco05] MoG making our lives hell
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I'm sorry that your having such a rough time with the mother of the groom. Maybe your Fiance can calmly talk to her and see if she'll buy a cream dress. If she still insists on not buying one then just let her wear the grey dress. A smokey grey isn't going to clash in your pictures. In many weddings the mothers wear completely different colors.
Don't let this stress you or ruin your day, just breath and let it be. Remember she is going to be a part of your future so you don't want to burn that bridge.
Re: [draco05] MoG making our lives hell
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Dear MoG making lives hell,
This is very unfortunate. You have done everything correct. The MOB chooses her outfit first, which in your case this is a MOH outfit too. Then the MOG follows along coordinating with her. Jeez. Other than tying her up and dressing her in your choice of dress, I don't know what else you can do.
Joking aside, you and your fiance together could try one more time to show her the colors you have chosen and how the gray will not compliment your pictures. Perhaps appealing to her vanity may help. You could tell her that she may look pallid in the pictures because of the gray. ... could work.
If none of this jolts her from her position, you may have to smile and accept it. You will all be family soon and as in all families, we have members who dance to their own music.
Re: [draco05] MoG making our lives hell
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Just my 2 cents...always let your fiance deal with his mother on the unpleasant issues! Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
MoG making our lives hell
