My son is getting married in March of next year. It will be a night wedding. The bride is wearing a formal bridal gown and the groomsmen will be wearing tuxes. The bridesmaids are wearing beautiful dupioni silk dresses which come right below the knee. They are in a purplish color called Hyacinth. What type and color dress would be appropriate for the MOG. I have spoken with the bride's mother on several occasions about her dress. She doesn't want a normal MOB dress, wants to lose weight, and has no idea what she wants. I don't want to wait until the last minute. What should I do?
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Jul 12, 2005, 4:49 PM
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Re: [serpymom] Mother of Groom dress
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Dear MOG,
It is best to wait for the MOB to decide and coordinate yours with hers. March of next year gives you plenty of time. It is not last minute for a number of months.
When she decides, your dress would be complimentary to hers in color, length, and formality. The reason for waiting is that you shouldn't outshine the MOB.
Re: [serpymom] Mother of Groom dress
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Traditionally you should wait for the MOB to pick out her dress. Since she doesn't know what she wants it makes it hard for you to start shopping. Don't worry, you have a lot of time before March 2006, and I am sure that the MOB will know what she wants in a few months. You have time.
The one thing I would suggest is to start shopping around and trying on all different style dresses/outfits. This way you know what style looks best on your figure. Then once the MOB picks her outfit you already have a head start on what you like and you won't have to worry about rushing around looking for the perfect dress. Obviously doing this, you might find the dress you want. If that happens you should find out the return policy for the dress. If it is fully refundable then get the dress and show it to the MOB. Explain to her that you didn't want to get your dress before she picked hers, but you stumbled upon it and wanted to see what she thinks. Ask if it is a style that she planned to wear and get her opinion on it and it's formality. From there you can decided whether to keep it or keep shopping. You don't want to step on any toes, and she will be happy that you are being so respectful and asking her opinion.
The color that the MOB wants to wear might be the only thing she knows, so try to find out before you begin your dress adventure. Have fun shopping!
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