Wedding is days away and Mothers won’t select dresses
We have a total of four “Moms” in our wedding. They consist of my mother, my aunt, my stepmother and the mother of the groom. My mother and my aunt are being seated on the first row. (BTW thank you for the previous advice on the subject! My aunt and my mother will sit on the first row, separated by her husband and my two sons who are giving me away.) My father and my stepmother will also be seated as special, on the third row. Then of course there is the mother of the groom. The wedding is an evening wedding; I would call it semi formal. My attendants are wearing black and the grooms attendants are wearing tuxes. We only have one attendant and one junior attendant each, so this lends to something a little less formal in my opinion, but still formal if that makes sense.
The wedding planning began six months ago and at that time I spoke with my mother and step mother about what they might want to wear to harmonize with the wedding theme and colors. I suggested they wear black or a dark shade of pink, fuchsia, mauve etc., since the colors are black and I am accenting with a very small amount of pink. Because of the strained relationships between me and my mother and stepmother I have not been involved in shopping for their dresses. I made my suggestions and let them go their way, reminding them again about three months ago of the wedding colors etc. The mother of the groom had been waiting to select her dress. The wedding is in just a little over two weeks, and I found out that neither my mother nor stepmother have selected an outfit. My father called to tell me my stepmother was in distress about what to wear and wanted to know what my mother was wearing, so I called my mother and was told she had not even thought about it yet. Neither of them seems to care what they wear. According to my father, my stepmother is just being dramatic because she doesn’t want to attend. She thinks if she “can’t find anything to wear” she can just say she is not coming. The MOG decided to go ahead and purchase a dress, I can’t say I blame her, but she shopped without me, and selected a blue dress. She described it as a soft blue, I am imagining a pale or baby blue but I have not seen it. My aunt is wearing a tea length black taffeta skirt with an elegant wine colored satin blouse.
Do you have any other suggestions for what I might encourage my mother and stepmother to wear? Will the MOG’s dress clash?
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Dear Royaltee,
More than likely, the MOG's dress will be just fine, but it is difficult to say without seeing it. The positive thing is that so many colors blend with the colors you chose. Your aunt sure chose well.
Although we typically discourage mothers matching the attendant's color, black is an exception. You suggested it before, but perhaps you could ask them to choose it again. It sure would simplify everything. But, if they still don't choose, don't fret. Just focus on what you need to do and don't allow yourself to stress on this. If they don't blend, it won't be the end of the world.
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This is a very delicate situation, so you should handle it very delicately. Since MOG now has a dress in "soft blue", you can encourage your Mom to select something in equally soft colors, such as lavender, soft pink etc. - you got the idea. Then, when your Mother has a dress and you know the color, you can then make your suggestions to your stepmother. Since your aunt is wearing wine color top with black skirt, that outfit could also either be wine or black with wine color accent. Try not to concentrate on this situation, however: it's your wedding, and you have all the right to enjoy it! Irina Feygin, IMpeccable iMage, Inc. Image and Beauty and For Princess Bride
Wedding is days away and Mothers won’t select dresses
