Wedding is Oct. 1 in New Jersey. 1pm church ceremony with 3pm reception / sit down dinner at golf club for 150.
Bridesmaids are in apple red, strapless, tea length dresses. MOB is wearing knee length black skirt w/ beads and mauve/purple v-neck top w/sheer sleeves & black camisole underneath. MOG is wearing knee length oyster dress with matching jacket (she will take off jacket for reception). Groomsmen are in black tuxes with red vests. My husband (groom's father) will wear same tux as the father of the bride.
I am considered "one of the mothers" but we live out of town so I have not been very involved with plans. We are contributing with some ancillary costs. I was told to wear whatever I like and was kept apprised of the other mom's dress selections. I was hoping to find something in a deep blue but everything I see is either floor length or strapless or very matronly. I do not feel pretty in knee length. I found a black, off the shoulder, jersey knit dress that's fitted through the hips with horizontal pleating then hangs with full draping to midcalf (tea length?). I do feel pretty in it.
Although not a "fancy material" I see they are showing this same material in a lot of formal, floor length gowns.
Questions: Is this dress, length and the color (black) appropriate? If so, what should I wear over it for the church ceremony (and in case the weather is cool that day)? A black pashmina or a black jacket or a wrap or jacket in a color other than black and, if so, what color?
Many thanks for your assistance!
Happy stepmom
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Re: [hapystpmom] dress for stepmom of groom
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Dear Stepmother,
One thing we focus upon is never to upstage the mother of the bride. If your dress is tea length and hers is knee length, yours could appear as more formal. Not being able to see or feel the fabric, I have no way of knowing if this is more formal in appearance than the MOBs dress. You can.
Your dress should coordinate with theirs since you are being considered one of the mothers. So yours should be in the same formality. Black is fine. If yours appears to be a bit more formal than the typical cocktail dress, it should be fine.
Any cover-up that looks good with the dress will be fine.
dress for stepmom of groom
