We have been invited to an English wedding in November. It will be a civil ceremony to take place at the Burford Bridge Hotel in Dorking, Surrey. The wedding is to take place in the tithe barn at 3:00. My question is would a black dress with a fall colors (mustard , brown and light orange) duster be appropriate. My husband is thinking a dark blue or black suit. I also want to know is its ok not to wear a hat. I am short and hats don't look good on me.
Also we have been told that a room has been rented for our evening stay. Is it appropriate for us to offer to pay for this . I know in America we pay for our lodging expenses, but we also make reservations. I am at a lost for answeres to my questions. Thanks
GContiMillinery
Hats / Headpiece Expert
Sep 25, 2005, 11:35 AM
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Dear Gayle:
Your dress sound lovely. Only YOU can be the judge here ... Colors are fine. Not wearing a hat? It is not a law to wear a hat, just very appropriate and respectful.
You don't look good in hats? Impossible. You just need the right hat for your face shape and silhouette and ensemble ---- and one that FITS.
Perhaps a small cocktail-like hat (the English call them "Fascinators") would be easier for you and also easier to carry over.
Are your hosts paying for your rooms??? Perhaps -- afterall, you are buying your tickets and over.. Why not just ask?
Have fun! England is terribly romantic in November. Call on me if I can help with your hat phobia. Gena Conti, Designer, Milliner http://www.genaconti.com
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Etiquette Now
WEDDING ETIQUETTE EXPERT
Sep 25, 2005, 3:34 PM
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I completely agree. There is nothing wrong with asking if you can pay for your room. But, please wait until you are positive that the room has been paid for. It would be very embarrassing for all of you if they hadn't and it was a misunderstanding. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
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Jill
Psychotherapist: Second Weddings & Stepfamilies
Sep 26, 2005, 11:14 AM
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Well now, you are in for a treat. I know this hotel well and have been to a wedding there too. Your outfit sounds lovely - and of course although you do not have to wear a hat, I think a wedding really does call for it. There are some lovely whispy net things about at the moment!
Pay for the room - tricky. can you find a way of saying generally something like 'whats the situation about a room'....something like that leaves it open ended and you should be able to get a feel about whether you are a guest or not. I think that although a bridal party often books a block of rooms, most people are expected to pay for themselves.
Have a lovely day - and give me a wave as you pass bye!! Jill Curtis Psychotherapist, Author How to Get Married ... Again (A Guide to Second Weddings) London, UK http://www.familyonwards.com
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