My daughter is getting married and is having a moderately formal late afternoon wedding (4:30p.m.) with a reception immediately following. One of the members of the bridal party (also one of my daughters), is seeing someone who insists upon wearing a tuxedo to the wedding. He feels he should dress to compliment the way the bridesmaid is dressed!!! I think absolutely not! I feel he is trying to presume a place of honor where there is none. (He is 33 yrs. old) Am I just being picky here?
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I don't know about you being picky, but the young man should dress as one of the guests, not to compliment his date. However, if the wedding is perceived as formal by the guests, many of the men may wear tuxes also. So, he may fit in fine.
Yes, tuxes are for formal evening weddings. But with the reception directly following, many of the guests will be dressing for the reception.
Thank you for your response. None of the other guests feel the reception is formal and tuxes are required My daughters "friend" I assume feels he wants to wear a tux since he will be the only person in our group who is not formally dressed, ie., the entire family is in the bridal party. He is rather "ill-mannered" and likes to draw attention to himself, so I'm afraid he will insist on the tux, impose himself at tables where he doesn't belong etc.. My husband recently passed away, so I can't en;ist his help here, I guess I will have to have to have my brther or son handle this. I thought is I could find something that said what the rule was perhaps my daughter could convince him to stay in his place, as this is not HIS day.
I would suggest purchasing a copy of one of the following books and then show the answers to your daughter in print or, simply print this page. Rebecca's answer is spot on. She is a seasoned etiquette expert and is very well respected in her field. Emily Post's Etiquette, 17th Edition
Thank you. I will go out and get one of them today. I do have a bridal etiquette book that I bought years ago for another wedding, however, it just doesn't address some of these issues, and I don't deal with obstinate people very often. Again thank you.
Yes, etiquette does tend to change so get Emily Post's book as it was just published and it's the newest one on the market.
Lucky for you that you don't have to deal with obsinant people that often! Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
Guest wearing tuxedo to the wedding
Again thank you. 
