The outdoor wedding is at 5pm, reception begins at 5:30pm and takes place at a winery and the winery's restaurant. I am not in the wedding, but my husband is the best man, and my 3-year old is the ring bearer. My 11-month old (currently 9 months) will be on my lap. There will be around 150 guests, and the attire specified is dressy casual.
I've found a really cute dress to wear to my brother-in-law's wedding. The underlining is pink, and a black chiffon-ish tight netting material drapes over it. So you can see some color to the dress, but it's mostly black. The waist is empire (I think that's what's called) - it cinches just under the bust with a broach. The straps tie up around the neck, so my arms, shoulders, upper back and above my breasts are bare (except for the straps). The dress comes to just above or at the knees. Is this dress appropriate? I'm mostly concernced about the bareness of my arms and shoulders being acceptable.
I want to look good, as I will be having cosmetic surgery 4 weeks before the wedding, and would like to enjoy dressing up, but don't want look like I'm competing with the bride.
Lastly, if you think this dress is appropriate, what kind of shoes should I wear. I don't like wearing hose, so I'm wondering if strappy mules (is that what they are - open toed, open heel, and low heel) is okay.
Also, any suggestions on formality for my 11-month old son?
Thanks!
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Re: [monstermash] Sister-in-law, not in wedding, evening at winery
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Dear Sister In Law,
The only problem could be that the dress could be too 'sexy' in nature. Only you can make this determination. There will probably be those ladies who do wear revealing attire, but it isn't viewed positively.
So, look at yourself in the mirror and ask yourself if you in this dress will be competing with the bride for attention. Is it too revealing?
It really doesn't matter much what your son wears as he should be sitting most of the time. Just dress him as you would if you were going out to a restaurant.
The best things you could do though is to focus on your two children's behavior. Making sure two young children don't run around at the wedding and reception will be a challenge.
Sister-in-law, not in wedding, evening at winery
