We are getting married next May and are planning on having a hockey theme for our wedding. As part of this, we plan for each guest to receive a hockey jersey with their name and chosen number on the back. My parents are fine with the idea, however my fiancée's father has flat out refused and the rest of her family are vacillating on the idea.
It's our wedding day - are we right to force the issue or should we cave in? It means a lot to both of us but we don't want to ruin family relationships over one trivial issue.
You're right, it is your day, but whenever you host a party it is always best to consider your guests comfort. Also note that parents are a big part of your day and many have been planning this day inside their minds for years. Give them some time to absorb the concept and be ready to make compromises, if necessary.
You can still have the hockey theme if you like but why do all of the guests have to participate? Allow them the choice and if they do it, great, if not so be it. Extend the theme into the wedding with things you have control over such as the cake top and the decorations. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
Yes, it is your wedding but you should be considerate of your guests. Frankly, it is never a good idea to try and force something on someone for any reason. If you want to have a hockey themed wedding, you could even have mini-hockey sticks with your names and wedding date on them. (We did this for a cheerleading themed wedding except we used pom poms).
Remember that guests are coming as a way to show you their support for your nuptials. Keep that in mind when you think about 'forcing' the issue. Some guests may be looking forward to dressing up for the occasion and doing this may end up hurting you more than helping. As for her parents, again, yes this is your day, but it is 'one' day and you will have to live beyond it. This isn't worth creating hurt feelings or bad blood with the inlaws. If they don't acquiesce to the idea after a few weeks, let it go. You can still have fun. Rhonda Allen, Bridal Consultant New Beginnings Weddings
I think that your theme idea is so cute and sounds like you guys just want to have fun on your big day. If the whole jersey idea doesn't go over well with everyone and you feel it will make the wedding planning process hard, then you might have to give in. Just remember, just because you gave in on one thing doesn't mean that you have to give in to all things when it comes to your wedding.
Unfortunately even though you are getting married you have another family to listen to...your parents! They want your special day to be just as wonderful as you want it to be, which is why they will voice their opinion. I suggest that you and your fiance sit down and brainstorm some ideas that deal with hockey which you could incorporate into your wedding. Then go to both families and get their opinion. From there I am sure you will both be happy. You will get a fun wedding with "hockey accents", and yours and her family won't be scared that the wedding cake and center pieces are going to be replicas of the Stanley Cup.
A few cute ideas to bring hockey into your wedding would be, a favor that deals with hockey. For example a DVD with clips of hockey great moments and/or bloopers, chocolate hockey pucks, even hockey jersey christmas tree ornaments (with your name and wedding date on the back) would be cute. Your center pieces could be a bowl (of some sort) with floating candles that are in the shape of hockey pucks and sticks, or if you do have flowers on the tables you could scatter some hockey stick (mini replicas of course) throughout the arrangement. You can even add a little of that hockey touch to your invitations to get everyone into the theme of things. Just remember to have fun with it!
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