My Fiance is thinking about wearing white tails and I absolutely love the idea of him being dressed differently than the groomsmen.
My dress is completely white and the bridesmaids are in blue, the groomsmen are wearing black tails with blue vest and tie to match the bridesmaids dresses. We thought that if the groomsmen match the bridesmaids then the groom should match me and be all in white. Instead of a tie he wants to wear a cravat and I love the idea.
Now he is not sure because he talked to his mom and she said that it was not appropriate but she just didn't give any reason.
She has a very different taste than we do, but now my fiance is doubting and I just want to make sure we were thinking something appropriate or if is trully innapropriate. We were also thinking about the white shoes and he didnt like the idea but what other color shoes could he wear if he is dressed all in white?
He is Hispanic so with his complexion I think he would look great in white.
Please advise, is it correct or not? We want to follow the correct etiquette.
I should also add that the ceremony will be at 11am and the reception starts at 5pm on the first week of March.
Thank you!
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You have several problems going on here. Firstly, all the men should dress in the same attire. The groom and his best man could alter their accessories a bit. So, they could wear a different colored tie, for example.
Tails are for very formal evening events. The cutaway is worn for very formal daytime events.
White formal attire for men is worn during warmer months or in warmer climates. March is not usually considered a warm month.
The wedding and reception are scheduled too far apart for your guests' comfort. What have you planned for them for the long period in which they must wait? Remember, when you invite, you are then host.
We were just thinking that if I am wearing white, different than the bridemaids, then why couldn't he be white as well and different from the groomsmen?
We are having the ceremony far from the reception, so we are giving our guests enough time to drive up to the reception site and since most of them are from out of town, we are giving them some time to check into the hotel and go to the reception site.
Is it bad for the groom to be in white different than the groomsmen?
March sometimes could be a little warm no? this last weekend was about 73F and sunny!
We want to get married at a specific church and they didnt give us many options for the dates. The reception sites around the church did not meet our expectations at all, so we found a gorgeous place, pretty much breathtaking and that's why we think it is worth the drive. We know that when our guests see the place and the food they are going to be very pleased.
Are we going the wrong way with all this?
I really appreciate your comments.
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All of my previous advice still stands. The tails are not appropriate for this time of day. The men dress the same. White coats are for summer months or warm climates. March may be warm at times, but is not a warm month.
It isn't polite to host a wedding and reception in locations a great distance from each other. We shouldn't expect our guests to have to drive to two different locations far from each other in one day. They also, most likely, wouldn't check into their hotel in between the wedding and the reception.
Please consider your guests when planning.
Perhaps you would benefit from reading an etiquette book. All of the advice is the same as here though. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
Groom Wearing White Tails
