I have an interesting question and need some advice! I am having a beach destination wedding in FL in the fall. I've always thought of having a beach wedding and wearing a white bikini with a sheer sarong, exotic flowers in my hair, etc. However, I also want the elegance of a formal wedding and do not want anything considered tacky. Also, I'm not sure if I will offend any of the guests if I wear a bikini top, as I have implants and love to show them off. After all, I didn't pay all that money to hide them! It will be close friends and immediate family. Another reason I wanted to wear a bikini, is I easily sweat under the arms, especially when nervous. Needless to say, if I got married (I would be nervous) on a beach in the heat, I would definitely sweat, and my dress by my underarms would stink the rest of the night. Question 1: Do you consider wearing a bikini tacky, or cute, given the beach wedding? (I want your HONEST opinion). If I wear the bikini, I would want to change into a traditional dress for a more upscale reception in the evening, and my FH would wear tux or light suit. Any advice or suggestions? Also, if I wear a bikini for the ceremony, what would my FH wear?
Well... if you want to go for a Gidget Gets Married theme, this is fine. But, it won't be formal in any way. Your guests would want to wear shorts and flip flops, bare chests and all. Your groom would most probably be in swim trunks or a speedo--shirt optional.
Honestly, with implants and a bikini top you will most likely look as if you are all chest. I doubt that anyone will be looking at your smile. No judging here, I'm in California, land of the plastic sergeant.
I doubt that you will get the feel you really want for your wedding with this plan.
If you want to show off the assets, go for a dress that gives your guests a good view. There are many tasteful, elegant dresses that also reveal cleavage.
Now on to the sweating problem. You are not alone here. Many people have this problem and there are products that really work. Go to your doctor and tell him your fears. Plus, there are dress pads that are made just for this purpose.
Florida is known as a tropical area. So, a white or ivory tuxedo is the evening formal wear for men there. But, if your dress is less formal, a suit is fine.
I think you need to remember the purpose for and meaning of your wedding day, which is to celebrate your love for each other as you enter the institution of marriage in front of others. This is a serious day and should be approached with a certain amount of reverence.
Given this, I believe what you are thinking is inappropriate and has the potential to offend your guests. Surely, there are beach wedding gowns available to make you look just as beautiful and can flatter your new figure. Rhonda Allen, Bridal Consultant New Beginnings Weddings
Thanks for your help and advice. I knew the beach would not be a casual affair. I figured that would be very informal, as the dogs will be there as well (they are our children and we planned on having them in the wedding). Then I figured the evening activities would be the formal affair, sans dogs. Is it bad form to have one extreem vs. the other between ceremony/reception? And thanks for the input on seeking doctor's advise. I know they have Botox for that, so perhaps I can get a shot prior to. It's not normally a problem, but given the heat and nerves, I'm afraid it could be!
Thanks so much for your honesty. Any suggestions on what type of dress would be suitable for the beach? Again, I was thinking informal for the ceremony (dogs included) and formal in the evening.
See a dermatologist about the sweating. There is a prescription roll-on type deordorant they can get for you that will minimize sweating. It is hormonal and will probably get better as you age. There is also an over the counter product you can get in the drug store, although the name escapes me at the moment. Ask the pharmacist on duty.
Consider your guests and the possibility of them traveling and changing to accomodate the dress code.
Remember that you wil be looking back at these photos for years to come. You won;t want to be saying, "Wow, what WAS I thinking?" Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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