Just last week, I brought my mother and sister-in-law for round 2 of my wedding dress shopping, and ended up purchasing my dress. The designer invited the two of them to come back with me for my fitting in April in case they wanted to take pictures. We gladly picked a time that suited all of us.
What I hadn't realized at the time is that prior to meeting me that afternoon, my sister-in-law had decided to open up to my mother about serious problems she was having in her relationship with my brother. I guess this made my sister-in-law feel better, but it looks like it ruined my mother's day. She put on an incredibly brave face while we were together at the bridal salons (neither me nor my sister-in-law noticed anything was amiss), but my mother called me sobbing the next day and admitted that she had spent the afternoon distracted and upset by the conversation they had had. She was beside herself at having missed out on enjoying this once-in-a-life-time experience.
Due to what happened, I'm no longer comfortable in bringing my sister-in-law to the fitting. I'm afraid it will only serve to remind my mother of how upset she was. Furthermore, having only my mother along would hopefully go a long way to creating a new, more pleasant memory of the whole wedding dress experience. Would it be appropriate to un-invite my sister-in-law? If so, any thoughts on the best way to do it?
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WEDDING ETIQUETTE EXPERT
Jan 20, 2008, 4:14 PM
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Re: [mjbride] Bringing sister-in-law to fitting
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Dear Mjbride,
You could tell your sister in law that you decided that you wanted to have some private time with your mother and stress that your decision doesn't have anything to do with her. That seems the most polite way to do this.
Bringing sister-in-law to fitting
