I am the MOG (always a tough call when it comes to the bride). The bride has selected a beautiful formal dress, but she said she does not want to wear a veil. She has short hair (no updo is possible) and she has a flip in the back. She said the veil will mess up her hair so she wants to wear pretty clips in her hair instead. I don't like this idea. It is a Jewish wedding (both bride and groom and Jewish) and I thought a veil is beautiful and traditional. All the pics I have seen show the bride wearing a veil. So, is a veil an option, and if you agree she should wear one, how do I tell her so without offending?
RevSusanna
Interfaith Wedding Minister
Feb 3, 2005, 6:02 PM
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Re: [toonces91360] Is a veil an option???
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Ah, the veil has great historical significance particularly in Judaism. It is lovely. Having said that, many Jewish brides are opting to NOT wear a veil. Often, it is the issue of hair, appearance in general or personal taste. Sometimes, not wanting to be veiled is a feminist issue.
How is your relationship with your future daughter-in-law? Is it close? If not, it is difficult to see how you can tell her without ruffling her feathers or even worst seeming like a intruding mother-in-law. However, you could try this: If you are a traditional woman, you could tell her that the veil has historic significance in Judaism, and gently ask her if she would mind wearing it just for the ceremony and the photos.
If she says NO, then just back off the issue... immediately.
Your relationship with her (and therefore your son) is more important than any veil.
Re: [RevSusanna] Is a veil an option???
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What a lovely response. Thank you. I am pretty close to my future daughter-in-law, but of course, I am not her Mom. I am trying not to be the intruding mother-in-law (That's a whole other topic). I will try your suggestion.
RevSusanna
Interfaith Wedding Minister
Feb 3, 2005, 6:52 PM
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Hello Mom,
I too have a son, and will hopefully be one day in your shoes!
Is a veil an option???
