I was recently asked to me a MOH in my friends wedding. I was honored at first but theN worried. I have no clue what I am doing. The bride is 21, MOH myself 19-, 20 at the wedding. The other BM 18 and the third is 25 but she lives up north and will be no help. The 18 yr old and myself are both college students with very little to no money. I am worried because I am the only one that can pay for anything more or less plus I have no idea where to even start. What do I do and where do I start. Oh plus the bride does not have a drivers license or any money either. I feel as if she asked me because she knew I would do my best and pay for things even when I cant or should not. What is my role in the weddinG and how do I keep it less costly but elegant?
The bride has no money or driver's license and is getting married? This is probably the mother in me, but it seems as though a person would want to be able to take care of herself before getting married. But, this is neither here nor there.
Here is an excerpt from one of my wedding etiquette booklets about your role:
"She/he will help with as much of the preparations as possible, although there is no one task that any other bridesmaid could not perform. Usually, she is responsible for arranging a bridal shower (although she isn’t obligated to do so) and attends all pre-wedding parties. She is not expected to give a gift at each party.
She could act as the director of the bridesmaids. She ensures that all are on the ‘same page,’ scheduling fittings, parties, and any other special planning. In this way, the bride only has to direct or request actions to one person only. She may fulfill the traditional mother of the bride role as the unofficial wedding organizer.
The honor attendant pays for her attire, but not her flowers. She will ensure that the officiate knows where to stand for the ceremony. She arranges the bride’s train and veil and holds her bouquet during the ceremony.
During the ceremony, she may run errands, running to gather items needed by the bride and may take care of any gifts brought to the wedding."
So, this doesn't have to be too expensive for you, except you will be paying for your outfit. You may have to usher her around for dresses, cake, vendors... Consider all of this and let her know soon if this is something you can do. It is better to cancel now rather than later.
No clue what to do?
