My soon to be hubby and i are getting married in 10 DAYS!!!
my mother is paying for everything.
We just found out in early FEB that i am pregnant and will be due in OCT. so i will only be 11 weeks pregnant at my wedding.
mOM let me get a nice white wedding dress; no train, no extras just very simple.
when i was purchasing the dress, I asked what veil I was to get, and she said NONE, it is inappropriate. I was shocked, and kind of hurt, but did not want to argue or disobey her. She is putting a lot of her money into this wedding. Is she wrong or am I wrong for wanting a veil?
I figured a white dress was more "inappropriate" than a veil.
I just don't feel like my wedding day will feel right, and I wont feel like a "bride" with out one.
Since wedding plans started, shes taken over, as if it were her wedding.
As per etiquette, who is right?
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Re: [MShamus] MOB wont let me wear a veil
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Dear MShamus,
The veil is fine for all brides these days. The only veil that is off limits is the blusher veil for encore brides. So, you could wear any veil that is appropriate for the formality of your wedding and your gown. And, by the way, white stands for joy, not purity--very old thinking. We don't live like that anymore.
The bigger issue is that parents are no longer financially responsible for their children's weddings, so anything they offer is a gift. Parents don't plan or invite unless the couple wishes it. Many do not realize this yet. And, when we accept the money, we have to accept the strings attached. Hopefully you two can come to an acceptable middle ground.
MOB wont let me wear a veil
