I am SO completely confused. If folks are supposed to be listed in the program in "order of appearance", if the FOB is walking the bride down the aisle, does he get listed LAST in the program? (Should FOB stay hidden until the grand entrance?)
Also, FOB is re-married, who escorts SMOB to her seat if no ushers? She is contributing her time, and will be wearing a mother's corsage. Where would she be listed in program?
If FOG isn't contributing, but is wearing tux to match the wedding party, should he be listed in program? Should he and his girlfriend seat themselves? After the other guests are seated?
Sorry there are so many issues/questions in this one. I don't know how to divvy them up. Maybe I should've titled this one "Seating & Programs & Processions, OH MY!"
Etiquette Now
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Jul 21, 2006, 7:53 PM
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Re: [MariJay] FOB, SMOB & FOG - To list or not? And where?
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Dear Seating & Programs & Processions, OH MY!
Well, deep breath...Typically the FOB would be listed as your escort, unless this is a format where the parents are listed at the top and not in order of appearance. He is typically with the bride until the main event anyway. He doesn't have to stay hidden.
If you want to seat the mothers, they would be seated as, MOB, MOG, and then SMOB. She would be listed after the MOG.
The FOG and his escort would seat themselves whether or not he is contributing, and any time during the seating.
Re: [Et.byRebecca] FOB, SMOB & FOG - To list or not? And where?
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Thanks, Rebecca. I want to make sure I understand correctly.
For simplicity, I think I'm just going to list the parents in their own section of the program. Is this the correct order? (I have a close relationship with both my step-parents).
Mother & Step-Father of Bride
Father & Step-Mother of Bride
Mother of Groom
Father of Groom
(Do you actually use the words "Bride" and "Groom" here?)
Also for clarification, should they be seated in the OPPOSITE order from how they are listed in the program? Isn't Bride's Mother always seated LAST? Should Groom's Mother be seated immediately before her? (your note indicates MOB first, but I'm not sure if that's for the program or actual seating order)
Thanks again for unscrambling my brain!
Etiquette Now
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Jul 22, 2006, 1:58 PM
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Re: [MariJay] FOB, SMOB & FOG - To list or not? And where?
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You are absolutely correct that the MOB is the last to be seated. Talk about scrambled brains here. Sorry. I reversed the seating on my last post. But, just reverse the order and you are on your way.
You are also correct about how to list all of the parents. Listing them with "Bride" and "Groom" is correct as well. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
FOB, SMOB & FOG - To list or not? And where?
