My mother died when I was 10 and I have had several people who have played a role in my life. One person in particular has really been a mother to me and will be honored at the wedding as "Mother of the Bride" but there is also someone who has been like a mother to me who I want to honor. I want her to walk down before the MOB just after the groom's parents, but I am not sure how to recognize her in the program. It seems inappropriate to say Honorable MOB and Honorable guest seems too insignificant. How should I refer to her? My father has also since past, so my Pastor is giving me away and he will be listed as Give-away-Father.
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Re: Honoring someone whose been like a mother
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Dear Onelove,
Basically you are categorizing your mother figures here. One is good enough for the "mother" treatment and one is treated as a grandparent. Plus, the MOG should be seated before a person who is not really your mother. It would be best for both of them to walk up after the MOG. They could sit in the first row if you wish. But, they should be listed in your program as who they are--just their names with (special or honored guest).
Give-away-Father is confusing and somewhat insulting in a way. You are not being given away and he isn't either. It would be best to list him in the program as your escort along with his name.
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I thought those very same things, but also wanted to add that you can't replace your mother, even with someone who has acted like a mother to you. To do so could be hurtful to other family members who may be attending and to the memory of your mom. It would be better if you could find a way to memorialize her, giving her mother distinction, and then hone these other women in another way. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
Honoring someone whose been like a mother
