How to Honor deceased mother and family who raised me in wedding program
This is a really confusing aspect for me. I have read through the posts but have not found anything that quite fits my situation.
My mother passed away when I was 9 years old. My brother and I were raised by our Uncle and Aunt, who had 2 children of their own. (our father was not in the picture at all and has never been)
Now, at 25 years old, I am getting married. It is so hard for me to call them "Mom and Dad"... actually I don't and never have. They are my Aunt and Uncle. Their 2 children are like my brother and sister. In fact, Kayla was only a year and a half old when we moved in and she does not remember life without us. She calls me her sister though she tells people I am her cousin if they get confused.
So now it is time to have the wedding and I am trying to put together a program. It is difficult for us to know how to Honor my deceased mother, honor the family who took us in, and not hurt anyone's feelings.
My aunt and uncle have not paid for the wedding. However, My uncle will walk me down the aisle and do the father-daughter dance, and my aunt will light the candle in the candle lighting ceremony. By brother and male cousin are groomsmen. My female cousin is my maid of honor.
I REALLY NEED HELP! Thank you for your time!
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Re: [kwright] How to Honor deceased mother and family who raised me in wedding program
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Dear Kwright,
You would list their names with their family title where you would normally list parent's of the bride. You would list your uncles name as escort as well. This is not uncommon. Then under all the names you could list an 'in memoriam' for your mother.
Re: [kwright] How to Honor deceased mother and family who raised me in wedding program
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Just make sure you're identifying people in the order that they are being walked in, with their actual family relationships listed. You don't need to be any more specific than that - many of the people attending will already understand that you have a unique family makeup.
You can include a nice (brief) message thanking your aunt and uncle for the role they've played in your life, and acknowledging the gift of life that your mother gave you. You can use wording comfortable and meaningful to you. Shayna Walker, Williamsburg Wedding Design http://www.williamsburgweddingdesign.com
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